How to Improve Self-Esteem

These are my notes from Speech class.
Self-esteem may contribute to choosing the wrong partner; to becoming dependent on drugs, alcohol, or other substances; or to experiencing problems with eating or other vital activities.
We can improve our self-esteem by changing the way we think about our self and the way we interact with others.

Engaging in self talk: Positive reinforcement is a good tool to pick yourself up. The use of words like, "I can do this." affects the subconscious and enough self talk will result in a different frame of thought about one's actions. Self talk should be realistic and positive. Repeating negative messages will affect one's frame of thought just as positive self talk does.


Visualize positive images about yourself: This takes self talk a step further. This is where you try to imagine achieving and obtaining your goals.


Avoid comparing yourself to others: It's best to avoid comparing one self against others. Everyone's backgrounds, status, level of wealth is different. It's best to find self worth rather than compare yourself to others.


Reframe appropriately: This is redefining events and experiences from a different point of view. Look at negative situations and see what is the positive side of a situation. For example, if your boss says you can't do something right, don't look at it as being devaluating or labeling yourself a bad employee. Instead, shrug it off, learn from your mistakes and utilize any information that can make you perform better. It's important to remember your self worth as a human being.


Develop honest relationships: Find trust worthy individuals to give you honest feed back when you need it. It can held determine what you need to work on specific ways to improve yourself. The more credible the information, the more you're likely to believe it.


Let go of the past: Things change. You change. Others change. Often letting go of the past can be hard for some, but research finds by not letting things go affects you ability to interact, form relationships, and move forward in life. Often religion says to forgive, this is definitely a good idea, because by not letting things go it could affect one's mental health and well being.


Seeking support: When a person has a problem, it's natural to express care, concerned and show support. When we have a problem, it's always great to have another person like friends, family, pastor or even professional help to share your problems with. Many often find talk therapy a good idea. It help put your negative thoughts and emotions into words that a counselor or professional can listen and offer useful reinforcement.