Before entering a relationship with a person you have interest in, I believe one should suppress their emotions and urges and have a sense self-discipline or friendship until fully knowing what the other person is completely like both internally and externally. It seems obvious nobody wants their feelings hurt. By learning about someone as a friend, I believe one can examine if one is compatible or not, thus avoid getting their emotions hurt in the long run. I believe by becoming friends first, individuals can find those who are truly compatible with them. I also believe if everyone were friends before entering a relationship, there would be more of a standard of potentially meeting a larger selection of compatible people and people available; many of which with potential unique and different qualities. Furthermore, I believe when one finally confesses how they feel to the person they desire to be with for the rest of their life, it will make the feeling all the more pleasant, special, and complete knowing the person you’ve selected fits to be your companion the best from all the other potential candidates.
Although you have generated a very much valid point, I have to say that though a person who believes finds or decides that the special individual is who they want to be with for the rest of their lives, it might not be the same for the special individual. With that, though the confessions would be truly special, pleasant, and complete to the one who expresses their deepest emotions, it could still result in hurt.
ReplyDeleteBut I see what you have pointed and appreciate your thoughts.
Good topic!
Thank you for the reply. It's most unfortunate that it seems someone could or perhaps will get hurt. However, the amount of pain they will feel will be less painful from a rejection then if an individual were to be in a long time relationship and were to find their relationship with their partner incompatible. In such a case, one would have to find a way to deal with rejection and pick themself back up.
ReplyDeleteNow, my question to you, sir, is it worth the risk of the friendship that has already been in tact? As many would dare to question and wonder, "why would I date my friend and risk what we have going?" In most cases, in the end it leads to heartache, possibly not in just the rejection alone but the awkwardness that lingers after said rejected confessions. It is something to consider when talking about things like this.
ReplyDeletePlus, with what you have stated, to my personal perception, it seems that you may be implying of the scenario of dating a friend who believes they have found "the one" either out of experimentation or even sympathy because they don't want to "hurt" the one who has just let everything out. It's not the case on which I have wrote. It's just the undeniable possibility that pain and hurt will come if the other person does not feel the same way.
With that in thought, what happens next?
Does it end? What happens to the friendship?
(it has been something I have been truly wondered about and would like your opinion on the matter)
Can't wait to hear your thoughts :)